Why You Should Express Yourself

When I read personal stories to put into the Helpful Living Magazine, oftentimes people are uncertain of what they should write about. One of the reasons is because they are nervous and don’t know where to begin. Telling your story can be a challenge, and even quite scary. You don’t know how others will take it and most importantly you want to make sure you write the right things. Opening up causes one to be vulnerable. It’s like telling the world about your personal story…and for the most part, it is! Which in my eyes can be scary yet rewarding. That is why it’s important to be clear about what you want to write about. Most importantly you want to be ready.

3 Reasons To Tell Your Story

1. It is therapeutic. Telling your story can help you because it allows you to relive the moments and process how things happened. When telling your story you will be surprised at how far you have come, and also what you have learned through the process. Writing about some of the past events may be triggering and may force you to take a break from writing, however, getting it out is the goal.

2. It brings hope. When people read stories it gives hope. Especially if the story is relatable, it can help someone know they too can get through it. This is critical and one of the reasons why I am adamant about having personal stories in the magazine. When people have hope it allows them to pursue whatever goals they have and know their situation can get better.

3. Not alone. That is one of the critical things I want people to know, especially when it comes to mental health. Being in your thoughts and not certain of how people perceive you can be a lonely place. Not talking about your problems or having an outlet can also make you feel lonely, so when someone reads about another person’s story, it can help in knowing they are not the only one going through this journey alone.

I admire anyone that takes the first step in telling their story. It’s quite awesome and I must say, it’s critical to not tell your story once but to continue to tell your story on as many platforms as possible. The more you tell your story the better you will be about telling it. Also, you have a chance of helping more people who are in dire need of knowing about your journey.

So go ahead. Tell your story. If you are looking for a platform, be sure to reach out to us at info@helpfullivingmag.com. We are constantly looking for contributors. Who knows, your story might be the reason someone decides to get help!

What Millennials Are Missing

What I admire about our generation is that we are innovative. Protesting is something we are not afraid to do, with social media at our finger tips, we are able to capture and see the social injustice in our country. We see evidence of wrongful doings, and no one can lie behind video footage. Seeing how we came out in numbers to shift the narrative in politics was heartwarming. When it comes to society, if there’s a problem that we are faced with, we speak up and do our best to bring awareness. However. it makes me wonder how this effects our mental wellbeing?

Mental health is starting to become a conversation in many homes. While working you may have encountered a webinar about self-care. I know I have heard on the radio and the news about how the pandemic has increased a lot of mental health concerns. There are panels and countless conversations which fills me with joy because mental health is important. There’s a host of facts and statistical evidence that tell you some concerning numbers about mental health. But what’s more concerning is the lack of resources we continue to encounter when it comes to treatment.

The Mental Health Community Needs To Care About Black Lives

Now don’t get me wrong, there is a lot of therapists, and psychiatrists as well as other mental health professionals that are great and willing to work. However when you narrow it down to your insurance, location, and availability the list gets slimmer. It sometimes leaves you with no one at all, especially if you are looking for a black male therapist, psychologist or psychiatrist. When people continue to run into brick walls when looking for treatment, they are not as willing to continue to search for it. Especially after getting answers repeatedly stating they cannot be seen for services due to XYZ and this is why I am speaking up!

1. Support is not a luxury in fact it’s necessary. Outside of mental health, we need a support system just to get through life. You may have a team or group of people in your circle but you have to ask yourself… are they supportive? Can you go to them when you are hit with the “hard stuff” in life? Are your thoughts or feelings minimized, and most importantly do you even feel heard? It’s imperative that we do because that support system, those loved ones you go to for advice can be the reason you make certain decisions. So be sure to have a solid support system because that my friend is what I think is missing.

2. Resouces are dire. There has to be a place where we can go and obtain resources. Especially if we are looking for a mental health professional or while we are in therapy. Our providers are not at our fingertips 24/7 and as some of you may know, therapy requires you to do the work. There’s no magic wand that shows up to the session to make your problems vanish. It takes dedication, just like anything else, however having resources like Helpful Living Magazine can give you the content you need to learn more about mental health. To read stories from people who have done the work, and are still going through the process. No one ever wants to feel alone, so it’s critical we continue to push out resources and make them available to people like you and me!

3. Instant Gratification. We all know that one person that wants to have instant success. You know the microwave method. When we are dealing with quick rich platforms we sometimes miss the mark. We work endlessly for the quick dollar not realize steady pace always wins. We also think likes is what gets us cash, which in all actuality it doesn’t. We can have 10k followers and only an eight is engaged in our content. Likes looks nice but its not a popularity contest. Lastly, we all may have heard this at one time or another but it’s not a race, rather a marathon. This also goes hand in hand with mental health. We have to do the work, be honest, and consistent with our feelings and how others make us feel. Be vocal when things bother you and be that student in the classroom that raises their hand when things don’t seem right.

So now that you know what’s missing what are you going to do about it? Take a moment to reflect on your life and see if you have any of the three things I listed above. If so, then tell me about it. I would love to hear from you. You can mention it below in the comments or you can click here and send me a quick email. I would love to communicate with you. You got this! I believe in you!

Chat soon! ~Jamie

Magazines Are Not Dead

Let me be the fist to tell you…magazines are not a thing of the past! Prior to creating Helpful Living Magazine I was in awe with how one issue provided valuable information. There are so many different magazines that caters to different needs. It’s hard to put everything in one magazine. I guess that’s why there’s so many!

Do you remember reading through Seventeen Magazine during your adolescent years? What about Ebony or Essence? They have flawless photos and relatable content that made me more knowledgable prior to engaging in their latest issue. Or how about the models or the clothes…wait do you remember the perfume or cologne section? I gravitated to those pages every time I open up a magazine.

One thing I realized is this…magazines are credible resources. If you are in a magazine, someone is paying attention to you. And that my friend is a reason to celebrate! Hence why I created Helpful Living Magazine. To celebrate those who work with the mental health population. They have been through a lot, even more so with the pandemic. Wouldn’t it be nice to provide a platform for the people who help us everyday, with our emotional and mental health? You know it’s true…I see you nodding your heads.

Magazines are…

Creditable: No one is going to write something about you just for kicks and giggles. You serve a purpose and as I mentioned above, it is something you should be recognized for. So kudos if you have ever written, been featured, or even did an advertising in the magazine. There were some eyes looking at you and you know what, you probably changed their life.

Fun: There’s so many magazines like I mentioned before, and that’s because there are billions of people living on this Earth. It would be daunting to the publishing companies if there were limited genres of magazines. That’s what makes it fun for readers. They can pick what they want, and some magazines have activities, recipes, and DIY things you can get involved in. It’s also something that is great to look forward to, especially if you like to do vision boards.

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Provides Resources: Have you ever read a blog and forgot where it was? Or couldn’t put your finger on who the writer was? Well with magazines you have a lot less to look through. Let’s face it, the internet is a big place, having magazines narrow down your search and you can always have that favorite issue on your coffee table or night stand. There’s a lot of resources in one magazine, a personal story could be a resource, or a list of providers is a great directory for those who are looking for some kind of care or treatment.

Overall magazines are amazing and that’s why you see them everywhere. You may even have a few in your house, and if you read them I will assure you, there is something in there you can gain clarity on.

Let’s Chat…what’s your favorite magazine, or share an article you read that still is embedded in your head til’ this day.

Help Me Through The Holidays

There is something about the holidays. I don’t know if it’s being around family, the excitement of food, or anticipating memories that we create for ourselves and our children. However, it’s a good way to end the year, as we prepare for the upcoming one.

If you are reading this you are well aware of what the world has been through. COVID-19 made its way around the world by being aggressive in different countries. Some places are fortunate enough to not experience the volume of fatalities COVID-19 has caused. While others become leery and worrisome about how to conduct their day to day lives, especially the holidays.

Now here we are. Thanksgiving kicks off the rotation of many traditional holidays that comes to follow. Typically families will watch The Macy’s Day Thanksgiving Parade, along with preparing for the dinner or others may be heading to the airport or making their way on the highways. It’s safe to say the holidays will be different this year. Some people are willing to accept that, while others are not.

Despite where the world is, we have a lot to be thankful for. If you are reading this, that’s number one…breathing. Parents have witness a new way of viewing their families. Virtual learning caused many parents to understand their children better and vice versa. With viewing the highs it’s common to think about the lows, especially if you are listening to the news or scrolling on social media.

Speaking of media, if you listen to the news (at least where I am at) I was informed these next couple of months may be rough. I don’t know if it’s because the numbers are spiking, the holidays, or both. However we have to prepare to stay cautious and respect those who are rigid with social distancing. Here are some things I think can help over the next couple of months.

• Make a list: write the pros and cons of what you have experienced over the last eight months.

• Be intentional about spending time with loves ones with safe distancing: virtual videos, calls, text etc.

• Spend time in nature: walk, open the window, embrace the fresh air

• Be a blessing: donate funds to local charity or donate clothes to a local shelter. Giving has a way of bringing joy into one’s life, making them feel good comes back in return.

• Uplifting music goes a long way: listening to upbeat, gospel, or even Christmas music has a way of creating holiday cheer.

How to Deal with Stress and Depression During the Holidays

No one is perfect, and we are not going to forget those who lives were cut short due to COVID-19. We never really think time has an expiration date until we are reminded when someone we love has passed on. There is no way anyone can tell you how to mourn or how long it should take. Just know people should respect your grieving and allow you to have the space you need. However, you are loved and we are praying and thinking of you this holiday season.

Take A Way: What do you do during the holiday season? Your traditions or suggestions may be helpful to our readers, including me!

Suicide Hurts

During this time of the year, we notice leaves changing, temperatures decreasing in some areas, and pumpkin spice lattes being the feature drink at a lot of coffee shops. I admire the fall, it reminds me that Earth goes through seasons just like we do, which may not look so desirable, but it is always necessary.

When the seasons change, it can alter a person’s mood. As the hot days diminish and cold nights take over our evenings, this can cause disappointment. Especially for someone who don’t like putting on coats, sweaters, and boots. Either way, seasons changing is good for us because it’s another way to reflect on what we have going on in our own lives.

September is Suicide Prevention Awareness Month and suicide awareness is something we all should think about. COVID-19 has given us the ability to isolate ourselves and become idle to familiar crowds. These moments are critical because our thoughts can take us to a dangerous place, which causes disruptions in our personal life. Our minds can make us believe things that are not true. For example, assuming no one is there for you and that no one cares. That is why self care is important and talking to individuals that value your life is mandatory. Support and awareness can change someone’s perspective overall.

Becoming aware is key. Being sensitive to someone who struggle with suicide is vital and every attempt, comment, or even thought needs to be taken seriously. Not all signs are noticeable but the best thing anyone can do is be attentive, listen, and educated themselves about suicide.

Suicide Statistics from ASFP

• According to AFSP suicide is the 10th leading cause of death in the United States

• In 2018 over 48,000 people died by suicide

• Over one million suicide attempts were made in 2018

Be mindful of different behaviors and check on your friends especially during complicated times. People who “appear” to have it all together are the ones who suffer in silence. They are the ones who are helping so many people meanwhile no one is checking up on them and their wellbeing. When someone completes suicide it hurts so many people, families, friends, and even those who hear about it. Its devastating and causes people to wish they could have done more, or spent a little more time with the person that was successful at committing suicide. Let’s not wait until its too late to have those thoughts on what we could or should have done.

In reference to being a support for someone here are a few things you can do to help those who struggle with suicide.

• Be present: there are times when there is nothing that needs to be said. No words can make a situation better, however your presence speaks louder than words. There is no better feeling than having someone with you going through emotions you can’t explain.

• Listen: this is important. When people vent, or express their feelings they are not looking for answers. They are looking for a safe space to express themselves without criticism or solutions. When people talk it allows them to identify their feelings, therefore when you listen you’re doing just that…allowing them to process.

• Provide Help: ask someone how you can help them. However, when you ask this question don’t look for an immediate answer, and assure them that they don’t have to answer you right away. Their frustration or emotions may not be able to allocate what they want you to do at the moment. But, knowing they have your support helps and can make a world of a difference.

We may not have all the answers and that is okay. However, we can provide support to those we love. Know that understanding is key and when we take the time to learn and become educated on one’s issue, we can provide the support that others are looking for.

How Can We Restart?

August is a bittersweet month for me. I remember the year I graduated from college and August rolled around, I reminisced about packing my car and heading back to school. Over the years, this month reminded me of college for some reason, and now that I am a working adult I can’t help but to think about people going back to school.

August also reminds me of preparing for a “fresh start”. Classes are in session and new goals are on the horizon for the academic school year. In these moments, I reflect on what I was doing a few months back and how I can improve and finish this year off strong.

Now I know with COVID going on things are a little different, but the mindset is still there for me. And it can be there for you as well! We just have to be mindful of where we are mentally and cater to our self-care. When we take care of ourselves, we can navigate through life and become better for those around us. By learning that, I make myself a priority first thing in the morning. I go workout or take a walk. I prefer to do this around the 6AM hour because not too many people are out at this time. The universe is quiet and I can take a moment to appreciate the fresh air and admire nature. Taking an hour or two for myself each morning allows me to be centered with myself, and available for whatever the day may bring. My attitude is better, I drink more water, and most of all I am productive. This is how I reset myself from the night before.

It is a pivotal time for me to RESTART. I took some time to write out what I want to do for the next couple of months. This prepares me for how I want to continue to grow as we gear up for the fall season.

• Implement healthy eating

• Reading material I should engage in

• Toxic things I need to get rid of (ex: candy, food, people etc.)

• Journaling

• Connecting with readers

• Networking with people who have the same mindset

These are my personal goals that I took the time to think about as we are almost near the end of August. It’s vital to “check in” with our goals and figure out what we want our next steps to look like. If we don’t check in on ourselves, who will? The short term goals typically leads to bigger goals and before you know it, you will challenge yourself with unforeseen goals. I often day dream about the day I will stand in front of people to talk about Helpful Living Magazine, or walk in a grocery store or hospital and see the next issue on a magazine stand. I believe it’s possible and I am living like it is going to happen, because it is. However I have to put in the work, otherwise it will be just that…a dream.

I am big on manifestation and the energy we put out there in the world. So I often ask myself, “how can I restart”? What am I lacking currently that I want to gain in the next couple of months? Having these healthy conversations with yourself (or with an accountability partner) alters our way of thinking and provides us to search for the answers.

So I Challenge You

Think about how you want these next couple of months to go. What’s holding you back and how can you better yourself as we enter into the fall season? Tell us about it in the comments, let’s start the conversation on getting a head start. You will be surprise how planning can change your life.

Minority Mental Health Awareness

July starts off with the celebration of the 4th signifying America’s independence, however this year certain holidays we acknowledged in the past does not have much importance in the lives of Black Americans. I am glad we are becoming educated and standing up for our rights. Police brutality is still going on and racial injustice continues as if we are not fighting against it.

This year many people learned the importance of Juneteenth and many Black Americans signifies that day to celebrate our freedom. The 4th signifies America’s independence however slaves were treated as if they didn’t matter. As a Black American I would prefer to celebrate something that signifies my freedom and represents my culture because it shows respect to our ancestors, and pays tribute to labor and disrespect they have faced for hundreds of years.

On the topic of minority, it is relevant to know we still don’t receive adequate treatment as other Americans. Many people who struggle with mental health and live in urban areas are less likely to retrieve substantial treatment. They may be referred to over crowded clinics and have minor discussions with the attending psychiatrist due to the lack of time they are given. Good treatment goes a long way, and it is important for people to not feel like a number or looked at as dollar signs because of their mental illness.

It takes time, patience, and positivity to help someone who is struggling mentally. It can be draining and overwhelming for an extended period of time, however if we don’t stay supportive to our loved ones, who will?

It’s critical to speak up, to ask questions, and to demand good treatment. We should be given that right. We should know what medicines that are being prescribed to use, why they are being prescribed, and different alternatives that play in our favor. Not everyone is subjected to take medication and just the thought of it sounds intimidating. Often times people are given treatment and walk out the clinic not knowing the significance of taking medication or the responsibility of being consistent with treatment. Which can cause confusion and sometimes ambivalence when unexplained side effects occur. Also understanding the social environment we are in, can be critical to their mental health in reference to stability.

It’s time to educate and provide adequate resources for OUR people who are dealing with mental health issues. And when I mean adequate, I am referring to people who have the ability to help. Who have slots available for therapy sessions, and time to educate and provide tools one would need to have a successful mental health journey. We have to do better and not expect others outside our culture to do it for us. They have been dropping the ball for years and it’s common for them to help their “own” as opposed to someone outside of their “culture.” There are good practitioners, bad practitioners, and honest practitioners, how often do you think you will encounter someone that is honest about your mental health treatment?

Engage: do not be afraid to ask for CLARIFICATION. Be sure when you walk out of a session you have a clear understanding of the conversation you had with the practitioner. Also, have people advocate for you, if you have someone as an emergency contact, be sure it is someone who is serious about your mental health treatment. If you have to ask multiple questions and repeat what the practitioner said, do so. Do anything necessary to make sure you and your practitioner is on the same page.

Be Honest: there are times when you are in session you will be asked to do homework, be serious about doing it and be honest about how you felt about it. HONESTY IS ONE OF THE WAYS YOU WILL GET ACCURATE FEEDBACK! Sometimes we feel ashamed when we don’t do our homework. Be honest about that. If you had a rough week or you didn’t have a chance to get to it, tell your practitioner and that is something you two can talk about. Time management might be one of your struggles and you can use that time to discuss ways to navigate time in order to complete tasks.

Ask for Help: some of us feel as if we can accomplish everything without help. THIS IS NOT TRUE, we all need help or a little push at some point in our lives. Make sure you ask for additional support, like an accountability partner. Someone you can trust and be your authentic self with. It’s critical to have support in addition to a practitioner to help you on your mental health journey.

We live in a world where it is a sensitive time for Black Americans. We are in a dual pandemic with COVID-19, police brutality, and social injustice. It’s time we get the help that we need, from the people we need it from the most. Be sure to be unapologetic when it comes to your MENTAL HEALTH TREATMENT, it only helps prepare you for a better future.

Your Mental Health Needs Attention

It’s nice to see the sun and flowers blooming this season. This month is critical because we acknowledge men health. Which also includes mental wellness have been converse commonly on social media. In additional we also acknowledge Post Traumatic Stress Disorder PTSD Day June 27th. People are not sure what to do, how to spend birthdays, and upcoming holidays while practicing social distancing. It become a challenge wanting to embrace love ones with a hug or a kiss, (especially our mother figures) to show them how much we care and appreciate them.

Zoom and video calls are good but for some its starting to wear down and just being in the presences of your loved ones is the only thing that seems to be efficient enough. I noticed people are doing their best by walking outside, planting in their garden, or completing an overdue project. Now that we are almost two months in we are running out of things to do.

Isolation is difficult for some people and thoughts can trigger our mind. It’s good to be around people because certain individuals relaxes our mind, makes us feel better, and give us the extra support when we are having troubling thoughts going through our mind.

I want to encourage you to go the extra mile in self-care. Some people will get their hair, nails, or even a massage for self-care treatment but I want you to dig a little deeper than that. I want you to think of what you can do internally to better yourself for the rest of this month.

This could be a variety of things but it stem from internal issues that can be a challenge, especially during this time of the year.

Reflection: think of where you want to be in the next three months. It doesn’t have to be anything drastic, you could want a better attitude, be more understanding, listen without responding, or communicate effectively. Think about how you talk to or with others. Do you cut them off, do you not say enough? Are you easily convinced, or are you quick to argue? Write down how your conversations have been in the last week or think of a recent encounter that you did not think went so well. Find out how you can get better with communicating with others.

5 Tips to Tackling COIVD -19 for Your Mental Wellness

For weeks, Americans all over the country sat in front of their TV screens engrossed in the news of the Corona Virus or COVID-19. People are forced to stay home as companies acted fast. Governors forced stay at home orders and shut down a lot of businesses. Bars, restaurants, libraries, churches, and any place where people congregate are closed to avoid any spreading of the Corona Virus. Parents are obligated to work and parent under one roof, as schools and daycare shut their doors to non essential employees. This can make homestyle living a little…hectic.

A lot of people were excited to work from home as they depend on technology in a new way. Companies hosting conference calls online as they continue to pursue ongoing workloads. Some glitches and hiccups occur but as organizations transition communicating digitally conversations becomes easier each day. However, balancing parenthood and being an active employee comes with its challenges. It’s not easy and a break sounds nearly impossible nowadays. The limitations of going to the park or outside is difficult, especially when the nation has to practice social distancing. To top it off stores are closed significantly early along with a state wide curfew for some states starting at 8:00pm.

Now more than ever, our mental wellbeing is challenged. Especially for extroverts who love to be around people. There’s a sense of acceptance and protection when we are with the people we love. Laughter is the best medicine and at this point we have to work a little harder to maintain relationships outside of our home.

It is easy to become isolated from everyone. This can cause issues for those who struggle mentally. Separation can trigger thoughts, which can lead to a path of depression and/or anxiety. Be mindful how you spend your idle time, if negative thoughts become an ongoing issue talk to someone about it. And honestly, you don’t have to be dealing with anything negative, just reaching out to someone to discuss your feelings has its benefits. This is the best time to talk to someone, and now with technology if you don’t have to see a therapist in person. And with the America practicing social distancing the best way to deal with your issues is virtually. Better Help is a place where you can go find a therapist if you haven’t already located one.

Therapist are having conversations with their clients about virtual therapy. And for some clients its the best alternative. Being in your own environment is helpful, especially during this time for our country. Commonly people struggle with keeping appointments with busy schedules. Limited availability before and after work hours are slim and connecting with the right therapist can be difficult, but with Better Help there is an alternative to tackling your mental health.

5 Tips to Tackling COIVD -19 for Your Mental Wellness

Take Walks: if you are working from home, it’s important to step away from the computer and take your mind off of work for a few minutes. Staring at as screen is not ideal. Sadly we are on our phones, watching television, or on the computer more than ever. Take time to give your eyes a rest. Spring is here and what way to enjoy it than to be outside. The walk can be as short as five minutes or as long as an hour, however long you decide to be outside…enjoy it.

Meditate: this allows us to focus on our breathing and try to control the thoughts we have running through our heads. There are so much uncertainty we are dealing with regarding “quarantine living”. Mindfulness has a website where they practice meditation. It is easy to join and most importantly it’s free. Schedule time out of your day to meditate and if you are having issues with separating yourself with you children, they can partake in it as well.

Call A Loved One: I recently checked on my grandmother and it was so good to hear her voice. Daily live demands us to take care of the things and people in front of us, like our spouse and children, however it leaves little room for us to check on our older relatives. My grandmother was just as excited as I was when she picked up the phone. We talked about the old times and conversed about wisdom. Calling her made me happy and she was vocal about being happy hearing from me. Just knowing someone was on your mind is always a good feeling, and the feelings is commonly mutual.

Schedule Family Time: this may be the opposite of what you want to do. But making family time a priority could promote to positive interactions. Watching a movie together on the big screen, popping some popcorn and having a movie night is great for families. Have a game night or doing an activity can boost positive energy and allow you to engage with each other without the noise of social media or any other distractions. LifeAsMama website has some activities that can help you build a closer and better bond with your family.

Get Dressed: I make an intentional decision to get dressed and put clothes on. I stay away from my bedroom and go downstairs to work. I also get my son dressed and ready as if he was going to daycare. It is something about getting out of our sleep clothes that helps us with our day. If we stay in bed (or at least I know if I do) it allows us to feel lazy and unproductive. We have to continue to do our best to look good, because looking good makes us also feel good. A nice hot shower and some clean clothes is a great way to start the day. As well as a balanced meal. Don’t be a couch potato, have some productivity and target one goal for the day. If that goal is to get through your emails…then do it. If it’s to help your child with their schoolwork…then do that too. Be certain to accomplish any goal. No goal is too small and the feeling of accomplishing things is a great feeling overall.

I found things that I have neglected over the years. I cleaned the linen closet, the coat closet, and even under the sink cabinet. Those are places I often ignore and when I was able to declutter and noticed the improvement, which made me I feel better.

ChangeDirection.org has a list of ways to stay mentally healthy during the Corona Virus. Be sure to read and apply the skills to have a better feeling. Also, for those who do not have anything to do. Please know there are education courses at Yale. Take advantage of this education and occupy your mind with well needed information. You can also get a certificate for only $49. So while you are quarantine in your home, you will also receive education from Yale. This is something to brag about.

Oh and most importantly do not immerse yourself with the news or social media regarding the Corona Virus. Having an obsession can cause additional or unwanted anxiety. There is nothing wrong with watching the news here and there, however being glued to the television will not change the situation. So stay safe, remember to be aware of your surroundings and practice the tips listed above.

We will get through this.

I hope this information was helpful. Be safe and stay healthy.

I Understand Why You Want to Give Up

“I am sorry we are not accepting any new patients at this time.” 

If you are a victim to this, it is safe to say you got off the phone disappointed or discourage to seek treatment. You possibly called a few clinics for the last couple of days just to hear the same statement more than once. Leaving you more frustrated and confused about the mental health system. 

“Contact your insurance company”

Another statement that is widely used and sorta helpless. You call and may be on hold for a few minutes, follow the prompts and let the representative know who you are and confirm you are not trying to be someone else. All to give you a list of clinicians who may not take your insurance, not the right place, or once again not accepting new patients. 

After a number of failed attempts, you start to think, “my thoughts were not that terrible, maybe I was having a bad day,” you may consult with a friend, and because you “appeared fine” to them, seeing a therapist gets brushed off. They may reassure you that you were having a bad day and talking about it to them was all you needed to do. You might even go online and read a few articles about coping skills and how to manage your stress. You then think, “I can do that, I don’t need to see anyone just for them to tell me this.” And life continues. 

Until another road block... 

Then you find yourself at an emergency room or in front of a police officer who tells you, you need to get evaluated for psychiatric treatment. They might even sell it to you and tell you that you are going to go to the hospital, talk to a few people and go home the same day. Only hours your find yourself admitted into a psychiatric unit waiting to be evaluated by a psychiatrist. (Sadly this happens way too often). Hopefully this has not happened or won’t happen to you. I agree the mental health system, police and emergency departments need to do better.

It may not have seemed like a big deal before, but too much time has passed and the behaviors can no longer be ignored. You become terrified of going into a psychiatric hospital all because of the movies you seen, or what society says about “crazy people” in an asylum. But you tried to get help, you called just like you were supposed to, you even reached out to the insurance companies and called clinics back to be on their waiting list, but no success was made. You become mad at the system because you are in a facility filled with people you “think” are crazy, only to realize they need a little bit of help, just like you.   

I heard this story more than once when I worked at a psychiatric hospital. People would tell me their stories and how they didn’t belong there…you know with the “crazies,” I assured them that our patients were people who needed some help and that’s what we were there for. To help. Some people became receptive to treatment after a day or two, and others…well not so much. They fought tooth and nail about being behind locked doors and refused to take any medication until they had an epiphany during one of the coping skills groups. 

I often wondered why it was so hard to accept treatment. However, I had to realize their journey prior to our encounter. What they experience and went through was something I had no idea about. Their life story and how they were treated growing up, all came down to a point where they sat in front of me with hopeless looks in their eyes. The thought of hurting yourself may sound crazy to others, but at that moment, the time where life seemed to have nothing left to offer, appeared to be the right choice to make.  

I am glad you stayed. 

I completely understand the frustration when scheduling an appointment. For seven years my job was designated to schedule follow ups appointment for clients leaving the psychiatric hospital. I did this all day for eight hours, mastering the craft and helping people with one less thing they had to worry about once they received their discharge papers.  I made connections with outpatient providers, talked to clients and discussed what was best for them, once their inpatient stay became a memory. I attended to their issues to find ways to implement follow up care to match their mental health needs. It becomes complicated on so many levels but I was up for the challenge. Majority of psychiatric practitioners have, a three month waiting list, which is disturbing for people who receive a thirty day supply of psychiatric medications, with no refills. 

I understand the turnaround. 

I also understand the relapse in treatment because there is not enough support in the mental health community. Offices are overbooked and therapist are even complicated to get a concrete appointment with. All of this is going on while being emotionally unstable and unaware of what the outcome may be. Not to add, being in the same environment which may as well be the initial reason for the mental health breakdown. 

I get it. 

It’s complicated and that is why I created Helpful Living Magazine. It’s a resource, for people to connect. To read other stories and have access to the life of others as they talk about one of the most vulnerable moments of their life. Our goal is to give you hope, to connect readers with that therapist that wrote an article about the very thing you struggle with. To get a glimpse of who they are and understand how they can help you. 

I am tired of the lack of services when it comes to mental health access. There are so many people in this world that have issues mentally, it’s time to stop throwing it under the rug and wishfully thinking that it will go away. 

Because it won’t.