Some of you may wonder why a wife and mother would talk about this. But in fact I ask…why not? We all do it at some point in our lives, others do it more than most. I actually think this is a topic we need to talk about. Besides, who wants to keep ending with the same results…unsatisfied.
For some who are still at a lost I am talking about cheating on yourself. We set goals at the top of our morning, just to put it off for the next day. Or how about we work so hard for a few days and then stop when we feel like the hard work was enough. It’s never enough, even when you accomplish your goals you still have more hard work to do in order to be satisfied.
With that being said. We all have goals.
But how often are we attaining to them? That’s why it’s important to stay grounded and around other people who are “passion pushers”. These are the ones that will help you push your purpose. They get excited when you talk about your plans and find ways to brainstorm with you. They want to see you win and they are not all in it for themselves. I’ve learned over the last few weeks how much I have cheated on myself and I was baffled. It takes being intentional to work on your goals and yourself. It takes disciple and for those who became successful had to sit out on a party or two, or had to take a rain check to meet a group of friends for dinner. It takes patience and willingness to be determined even when the results don’t come into play.
I eat.
I put myself on a lifestyle change by not eating meat. I also workout continuously and seen some improvement in my running and other cardio exercise. However, I would cheat here and there, eating something I don’t have no business consuming. Not eating meat made it difficult to get full from time to time. I would find myself eating cakes, cookies, sweets, and other things that were not green and leafy. I got tired of having this sweet tooth that I knew if I wanted to lose the weight I had to refrain from eating sugar…bottom line. I still struggle to this day, but I know each day I have to be intentional to not want to cheat myself by indulging in chocolate or anything that pertains sugar.
I procrastinate.
People know me as a go getter. I started this magazine last year with just an idea and had the first issue published in at the top of this year. But I have a tendency to be hesitant to email someone back or set a price for a magazine. One of the reasons is because I am nervous and afraid of the response, which leads to procrastination. I will think of other things to do in the house until I am ready to answer an email. (Now I won’t let it sit for too long, but the excitement turns into fear). And I know if I am dealing with this someone else is too. Being fearful of what can happen leads to nothing moving. I think everyone becomes nervous or fearful when it’s time to present their craft, because of the unexpected. Just think about the moment you had to give your first presentation. You probably didn’t want to do it, or was scared that you would stumble over your words, but the satisfaction after it was over is what we all wait for. Why put in the hard work not to present? That’s what I have to remind myself sometimes when it comes to Helpful Living Magazine, I put in so much time, recruiting articles, talking to different people and conducting interviews, all to let it sit on my computer and not be shared with the world? I think not.
I desire. Therefore I deliver.
When I noticed my vision I witness what it could do for people. I opened my turquoise notebook and started writing. The ideas were limitless and each point I became excited. I had a feeling in my soul that this was right, and it was only a matter of time before people discovered what I do. I had it all brainstormed and even laid out my articles for the first issue, I had prospects and I knew it was only a matter of time before I reached out. I met with people, made new friendships, and discovered new ways to help those who are dealing with mental health issues. Boy was I excited, and I had every right to be. No one that I knew was doing this and I knew I wanted to break barriers and change someone’s life.
But then the desire dwindled and one thing led to another, I got busy, but the desire was at the back of my mind. And that’s what happens to a lot of people who pursue to push their purpose. We all have been there before. It’s called life. We get tired from time to time and struggle with having the energy to make that phone call or write that blog post. Despite how we feel we have to live purposefully and allocate time to complete our daily task.
So now it’s your turn.
Are you tired of cheating? Doesn’t it get exhausting after having the same end result? So what are you going to do about it? Some people find it difficult to gain clarity of be around people that have the same desires. If that is the case I say get involved in a Facebook group or go on Meetup.com and see if there is a space where you can link up with likeminded individuals. It’s worth the effort and you never know, someone may spark an interest that you leased expected for your business venture.
So live intentionally and even if it’s just a 30 minutes to an hour a day, be sure you do something pertaining to building your business. Think of things that you can stop doing (like watching TV or idle time on social media) use that time to focus on your goals. And even if you are a TV connoisseur find time in between commercials to make a post, send an email, or write that blog. Trust me, there are people out there that are waiting for your purpose to flourish. The world is waiting and what better way to start than right now. The change starts with you!
Conversation Starter:
What changes have you made over the years? What are some things that you want to work on or change about yourself?