Think about a house the next time you ponder on what support looks like. A house has a foundation, walls, and floors. Those are some of the main things needed for the house to stand. If one thing is missing the house is going to fall. It’s vital to have good support because it helps one go further in life. But some people have a hard time understanding what support looks like, or who in their life provides quality support.
Here’s How To Find Support
History: think of the person who has been in your life during key moments. Transitioning moments or any life-changing events. Take a moment to see how they have made you feel during those moments. If it’s good then that’s a person you want to jot down on your support list.
Reliability: who do you call when you get good news? Someone you want to share your wins with is someone who may have been around to support you in your life. That person you have in your mind right now, is the person you can consider a part of your support.
Vulnerability: this can go both ways. You share your deepest and most intimate moments with someone you trust and can be vulnerable with. And in return, that person has been vulnerable with you.
There may be different friends for different kinds of events that are going on in your life. But I want you to take a moment and write down who fits the three criteria listed above. After you write those names down I want you to think of ways of how they can best support you, if they don’t know how to already. It’s important to get in the habit of telling friends, loved, ones, and supporters how they can best support you, and what signs to look for when you are not feeling your best.
Oftentimes we want to support people the way WE know how or how WE want to be treated. But the way we want to be treated is not the same case for everyone else. I encourage you to call your friends up, those who you know that can best support you, and have a conversation. Discuss how you appreciate them and inform them on how they can best support you when you, this can be in general, when you are not feeling your best, or when you are at your highest high.
These conversations can appear to be overlooked but it’s the best way to sustain support for yourself and vice versa. We can’t assume we know how to support someone, as their needs change over time. By doing this you will find strength in your friendships and gratitude to hear their thoughts in return.
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The more support you receive the better your chances of you being the best version of yourself. So value the time you spend with your loved ones, supporters, and yourself.
Let me know what support looks like for you. Be sure to comment below, I would love to start a conversation!