I know I am not the only one that wished back I could go back in time and play outside, and not be concerned about food and bills. ADULTING IS OVERATED AND THEEE MOST AT TIMES! There are so many things we have to think about time and time again. Let me just say this, if you have had it you are in the right place. We do everything we are told just to get olde and be annoyed by going to work, paying bills and occasionally buy something for ourselves. Might I add, when we do buy something, it’s from the clearance rack, or food we scuffle down just to be annoyed about it later.
I relocated from my hometown the same year I walked across the stage after receiving my Bachelor’s in Arts Degree. You couldn’t tell me anything, I mean what could you tell a 21 year old with a degree? I was ready to conquer the world, and after being done with school for about 16 years I just knew I had things kinda figured out. I had my eyes on the prize, an apartment, car, job, and freedom! Only to realize that freedom came with a pricetag…ADULTING.
Does this sound like you? I mean seriously, there comes a point in our lives that we think we have it figured out and then BAM! Reality hits us. I noticed I was lonely…a lot. My relationship was stagnet, I wasn’t close to home, at least I didn’t have the money to go home as much as I wanted, and like I said…I was lonely. There was no sugar coding my feelings. I was going to work, existing…literally day to day doing the same thing just to pay the bills. I started to think moving from my hometown was a bad move. At work, I was surrounding by listening to everyone’s problems and I was starting to feel like their problems was just the way things were in life. Frustrating with no positive outcomes.
Have you ever felt this way? I am sure if you open up this blog post. It’s frustrating right? Just sinking into your thoughts not knowing what the outcome is going to be. Its like no one knows what you are going through and when you explain or try to explain yourself to someone one may say you are seeking attention. Now where’s the sincerity in that?
How do you even find someone that you could trust when it comes to talking about your issues. I mean we all have them and some of our friends know how to run their mouth as opposed to listening to our issues and helping us come up with solutions. Then there’s those competitive friends, you know the ones you vent to and they tell me abut their issues and we go back and forth as if we are competing for the negative trophy award, please let me know I am not the only one who have been through this?!
I know you know what I mean. But the big question is, how do I get support? Espcially if I am not in therapy or if I am having a hard time finding someone to talk to? It gets tough out there, internally and externally and there has to be a way out of that…right? There are topics I would love to engage in online, or even with friends on the phone but sometimes it can be hard, especially when everyone has a lot going on.
Let me know what your thoughts are. I must say sometimes reading an article or two can help, especially if it is relatable to what I have going on. At times, when I come across the right article, I mean the one that is word for word talking about my life, it lets me know that I am not alone in this world called life. It gives me guidance on what other people’s outcomes and reading about other people isn’t so bad. I mean that;s one of the reasons we like to watch reality shows right?
I got a few solutions to feeling frustrated and so far, its worked. I am feeling better about it and learning to identify who I need to talk to, and who to show support to, because less face it, who we give our energy to is just as important as who we vent to. There’s a few articles that I know you would love, just head over to our digital content or if your jazzy and want to get the physical content you can check that out as well. I am certain you will read something in there that will be relatable. And when you do, send me an email, I would love to hear your feedback about it!